It took a couple of stressful jobs and tough relationships before life finally got through to me about the harm in misusing my best effort on things that weren't important to my life's work.
"Yo, that's foul," "Girl, I would've told his ass to get out my house!"
There was a loud chorus of animated responses that came from the circle of lounge chairs. My friends and I sat on the patio eating, drinking, and discussing my platonic friendship that ended days prior in one, actually several self-satisfying strokes.
By now you probably know that I'm obsessed with being thankful in all things. So much so that I occasionally get on my own nerves.
There are days I just don't want to be thankful. I want to complain about having to do the laundry and my hair, or dread the drive across town to see my dad, or park waaay in the back of the parking lot. Then I feel like a jerk and go back to being thankful.
Name it and claim it. Call that which is not as if it were. Speak it into existence.
All phrases packaged differently that boil down to a universal message of belief: you have the power to shape your life.
If it's true that actions speak louder than words, then what if we didn't call that which is not as if it were? What if we, instead, acted on it?
"Life is an adventure" is a common phrase. It sounds like the perfect pep talk, but the more I think about this phrase, the less I like it. It makes it seem as if we're passively along for the ride. Life is making decisions to send us here and there, and we're witnessing it unfold in front of us.
The truth is, we mostly get to choose our adventures so long as we choose to be adventurous.
Before I'd heard of Brené Brown or discovered her TedEx talk on "The Power of Vulnerability" (viewed over 20 million times), I had my own revelation about what it means to be vulnerable.
My revelation came when I was in the "off" phase of, what I would describe as, an on/off relationship. I had walked away. After a distressing truth had been told, I literally got up, gathered my things while he watched, and...