It took a couple of stressful jobs and tough relationships before life finally got through to me about the harm in misusing my best effort on things that weren't important to my life's work.
This year I've written thousands and thousands of words in 29 blog posts. This is a 100% increase over what I produced last year. One hundred percent.
If I were a publicly traded company, I'd be winning with those numbers. I'd get a $1.2M bonus or something absurd like that.
Nevermind that the year before I produced nothing...
After 4 days of roadtripping, I woke up in Carmel after a good night's sleep.
Turns out my AirBnB hosts were in the entertainment industry. You can hear the husband in the background of movies--he's a voice actor--reacting to a punch, having a conversation, and making whatever human noises are required.
I should tell you right away that I'm not a fan of closure.
Specifically, the kind of closure that depends on another person to give you peace about the ending of a romantic relationship.
Seeking closure is alluring because it allows you to minimize the most important thing that you already know about the relationship. That it's over.
On the face of it, meditation sounds like an impossible task. For 30 - 60 minutes, sit cross-legged, clear your mind of everything, chant "Om," and touch your fingers as your hands rest on your knees.
Let's be real. Who can clear their minds of all thought? Who, passed the 5th grade, can comfortably sit cross-legged for more than 5 minutes? And who has an extra 30 to 60 minutes in a day to kill?
I don't take rejection well.
Ever since I stopped saying this a few years ago, the thought of rejection doesn't even make me flinch.
If it's true that we attract the things we fear most, then I think it's wise to be at peace with rejection. I don't want to fear it and most important, I don't want it to have any negative power over me. And fear is power.
When was the last time you desperately wanted something, worked for it, prayed for it, got it, was super excited about your victory, then became unhappy with it?
I'm talking about the dream job you landed that's now hard to get up for in the morning, the home you bought that always needs a new fix, the sweet baby you dreamed of that refuses you one full nights sleep, and a relationship that you were so excited about in the first days that turned dull.