Relationships

Toxic Relationships Of Others

Toxic Relationships Of Others

I'm in a unique space that puts me smack dab between my peers getting married remarried, divorced, and inhabiting spaces in between.

My friends are expanding their families and, to my surprise at how fast time flies, a couple of my slightly-older-than-me peers are experiencing the birth of their first grandchildren. 

I'm seeing it all. Most important, I'm hearing it all. And for a while, it effected me.

Marriage Truth Bomb$

Marriage Truth Bomb$

Picture the scene. 

I'm at an offsite office party somewhere downtown, eating, drinking and chatting with co-workers. 

One of my colleagues begins discussing her impending divorce. Another lends his support--having gone through a couple of divorces himself--by assuring her of all the positive things she can expect to experience when the legal proceedings are final.

"You'll be better off. You'll have more peace. And you'll find that you'll have more money," he says.

100 Years (Literally!) Of Gender Complaints

100 Years (Literally!) Of Gender Complaints

Men these days just aren't what they used to be. They used to court, care for, and protect women. 

Women these days can't hold a candle to women of past generations. They don't know how to cook,  or how to treat men. 

We all hear these complaints. Your Facebook newsfeed probably has at least one gender-based complaint posted right now, either blatant or slyly disguised as a joke.

But y'all, this battle of the sexes has been going on for over a hundred years.

Practicing Vulnerability

Practicing Vulnerability

Before I'd heard of Brené Brown or discovered her TedEx talk on "The Power of Vulnerability" (viewed over 20 million times), I had my own revelation about what it means to be vulnerable.

My revelation came when I was in the "off" phase of, what I would describe as, an on/off relationship. I had walked away. After a distressing truth had been told, I literally got up, gathered my things while he watched, and... 

Ignore Distractions Outside Your Pool

Ignore Distractions Outside Your Pool

Over a decade ago, Author Greg Behrendt did the world a favor when he wrote the book titled with the phrase that everyone's friend would think, but would never say to their long-suffering lovesick pal: He's Just Not That Into You. 

The book summarily reality-checked all delusions that someday a hoped for romantic situation would emerge from passive interest. His book targeted women, but the message was universal across gender.

Angry With God, Yet?

Angry With God, Yet?

We're talking about God here, the creator of the galaxy. He created the universe and everything in it. The daily mechanics of earth alone makes up an infinite number of miracles from seedlings transforming into colorful blossoms to the moon lifting up entire oceans.

If He can do that, surely He can arrange for you to bump into your future spouse at the grocery store. But He hasn't. Not for you. And if that makes you angry with God,...