Take Advice From These People Instead...
Wise people. For the love of God, take advice from wise people.
I'm single. And I'm good at it. The old folks say, "If you ain't married, you single," so by that definition, I've been single my whole life.
Single, overwhelmed, and having a bad day? Have support on speed dial.
If you're traveling solo, get out your pencil.
If you took this survey for singles over 30, results are in...
Your f ups may suggest that you hate yourself, but do you? Consider this...
What I learned after serving on two relationship panels last year. One for men and one for women.
I'm in a unique space that puts me smack dab between my peers getting married remarried, divorced, and inhabiting spaces in between.
My friends are expanding their families and, to my surprise at how fast time flies, a couple of my slightly-older-than-me peers are experiencing the birth of their first grandchildren.
I'm seeing it all. Most important, I'm hearing it all. And for a while, it effected me.
Here's a relationship test.
In this case, the relationship is between employer and employee. You're the employer, so put on your "Hiring Manager" thinking cap.
Read three resume objectives listed, then decide, as a Hiring Manager, which candidate sounds most likely to come in to your business or department and be the most impactful?
Picture the scene.
I'm at an offsite office party somewhere downtown, eating, drinking and chatting with co-workers.
One of my colleagues begins discussing her impending divorce. Another lends his support--having gone through a couple of divorces himself--by assuring her of all the positive things she can expect to experience when the legal proceedings are final.
"You'll be better off. You'll have more peace. And you'll find that you'll have more money," he says.
Men these days just aren't what they used to be. They used to court, care for, and protect women.
Women these days can't hold a candle to women of past generations. They don't know how to cook, or how to treat men.
We all hear these complaints. Your Facebook newsfeed probably has at least one gender-based complaint posted right now, either blatant or slyly disguised as a joke.
But y'all, this battle of the sexes has been going on for over a hundred years.
Name it and claim it. Call that which is not as if it were. Speak it into existence.
All phrases packaged differently that boil down to a universal message of belief: you have the power to shape your life.
If it's true that actions speak louder than words, then what if we didn't call that which is not as if it were? What if we, instead, acted on it?
This year on Valentine's Day, my best friend texted me a recent picture of my high school ex-boyfriend. Something she snagged from Facebook, no doubt. Her idea of a funny joke. If you'd seen him "before" back in 1990-something then you'd understand the shock of the "after." Let's just say, he changed.
Before I'd heard of Brené Brown or discovered her TedEx talk on "The Power of Vulnerability" (viewed over 20 million times), I had my own revelation about what it means to be vulnerable.
My revelation came when I was in the "off" phase of, what I would describe as, an on/off relationship. I had walked away. After a distressing truth had been told, I literally got up, gathered my things while he watched, and...
Over a decade ago, Author Greg Behrendt did the world a favor when he wrote the book titled with the phrase that everyone's friend would think, but would never say to their long-suffering lovesick pal: He's Just Not That Into You.
The book summarily reality-checked all delusions that someday a hoped for romantic situation would emerge from passive interest. His book targeted women, but the message was universal across gender.
Singles are repeatedly advised to get to this mysterious place called "Out There," where single men and women are aplenty.
Out There is the modern day land of milk and honey for anyone looking for a meaningful relationship. Or perhaps it's more like Willy Wonka's Chocolate Factory, with rivers of rich chocolate...
I don't take rejection well.
Ever since I stopped saying this a few years ago, the thought of rejection doesn't even make me flinch.
If it's true that we attract the things we fear most, then I think it's wise to be at peace with rejection. I don't want to fear it and most important, I don't want it to have any negative power over me. And fear is power.
We're talking about God here, the creator of the galaxy. He created the universe and everything in it. The daily mechanics of earth alone makes up an infinite number of miracles from seedlings transforming into colorful blossoms to the moon lifting up entire oceans.
If He can do that, surely He can arrange for you to bump into your future spouse at the grocery store. But He hasn't. Not for you. And if that makes you angry with God,...