I'm a fan of online dating just like I'm a fan of assorted donuts and jelly beans. I like that Sonic has a gazillion flavors of slushes and that America has 50 states. I like options. Lots and lots of options. This is what online dating provides.
Here's a relationship test.
In this case, the relationship is between employer and employee. You're the employer, so put on your "Hiring Manager" thinking cap.
Read three resume objectives listed, then decide, as a Hiring Manager, which candidate sounds most likely to come in to your business or department and be the most impactful?
Rapper T.I. recently asserted that a woman wouldn't be a good choice for president because they are too emotional.
There's so much that can be unpacked from that statement about sexism, culture, society, patriarchy, and ignorance, but for now we'll just examine the issue of popping off at the mouth.
Oprah came to this concise and accurate conclusion about T.I.'s statement: "I think people just like to talk."
Help Me, I'm Still Single!
This is the name of a TV show that caught my attention as I was flipping through channels a couple of weeks ago.
Part of the show focused on Mercedez, a 25-year old Flight Attendant who has a list of standards for men she dates. After a long-term relationship left her brokenhearted, she says the list is about compatibility and to protect herself, but she wonders if her standards are holding her back from finding a good man.
Dr. Schwartz assures her, yes, it is holding her back. Then she says something that blows my minds.
This year on Valentine's Day, my best friend texted me a recent picture of my high school ex-boyfriend. Something she snagged from Facebook, no doubt. Her idea of a funny joke. If you'd seen him "before" back in 1990-something then you'd understand the shock of the "after." Let's just say, he changed.
In a 4-year period, I had 3 dates. That's 1 date every 1.33 years.
I was 2 or 3 years out of college and busy earning corporate stripes, determined to rise in ranks and willing to sacrifice my personal life to get there. In a short span, I'd earned two promotions, ascended into management, plus scored a position on a board. My career had blossomed. My dating life; however, was dismal.
Before I'd heard of Brené Brown or discovered her TedEx talk on "The Power of Vulnerability" (viewed over 20 million times), I had my own revelation about what it means to be vulnerable.
My revelation came when I was in the "off" phase of, what I would describe as, an on/off relationship. I had walked away. After a distressing truth had been told, I literally got up, gathered my things while he watched, and...
Over a decade ago, Author Greg Behrendt did the world a favor when he wrote the book titled with the phrase that everyone's friend would think, but would never say to their long-suffering lovesick pal: He's Just Not That Into You.
The book summarily reality-checked all delusions that someday a hoped for romantic situation would emerge from passive interest. His book targeted women, but the message was universal across gender.
Singles are repeatedly advised to get to this mysterious place called "Out There," where single men and women are aplenty.
Out There is the modern day land of milk and honey for anyone looking for a meaningful relationship. Or perhaps it's more like Willy Wonka's Chocolate Factory, with rivers of rich chocolate...
You like someone, but they aren't into you. You aren't that into someone, but they are head-over-heels for you. You meet the perfect someone, but you're about to move across country in 3 weeks for a new job. You meet another person in the new city, but they just ended a relationship and aren't ready. They want a big family, but you don't want kids.
It's always something.