Dating

If You're Still Single, That's On You!

If You're Still Single, That's On You!

Rapper T.I. recently asserted that a woman wouldn't be a good choice for president because they are too emotional.

There's so much that can be unpacked from that statement about sexism, culture, society, patriarchy, and ignorance, but for now we'll just examine the issue of popping off at the mouth. 

Oprah came to this concise and accurate conclusion about T.I.'s statement: "I think people just like to talk."

Rethinking The Idea Of Having "Standards"

Rethinking The Idea Of Having "Standards"

Help Me, I'm Still Single! 

This is the name of a TV show that caught my attention as I was flipping through channels a couple of weeks ago.

Part of the show focused on Mercedez, a 25-year old Flight Attendant who has a list of standards for men she dates. After a long-term relationship left her brokenhearted, she says the list is about compatibility and to protect herself, but she wonders if her standards are holding her back from finding a good man. 

Dr. Schwartz assures her, yes, it is holding her back. Then she says something that blows my minds.

The Secret To Stress-Free Dating

The Secret To Stress-Free Dating

In a 4-year period, I had 3 dates. That's 1 date every 1.33 years.

I was 2 or 3 years out of college and busy earning corporate stripes, determined to rise in ranks and willing to sacrifice my personal life to get there. In a short span, I'd earned two promotions, ascended into management, plus scored a position on a board. My career had blossomed. My dating life; however, was dismal.

Practicing Vulnerability

Practicing Vulnerability

Before I'd heard of Brené Brown or discovered her TedEx talk on "The Power of Vulnerability" (viewed over 20 million times), I had my own revelation about what it means to be vulnerable.

My revelation came when I was in the "off" phase of, what I would describe as, an on/off relationship. I had walked away. After a distressing truth had been told, I literally got up, gathered my things while he watched, and... 

Ignore Distractions Outside Your Pool

Ignore Distractions Outside Your Pool

Over a decade ago, Author Greg Behrendt did the world a favor when he wrote the book titled with the phrase that everyone's friend would think, but would never say to their long-suffering lovesick pal: He's Just Not That Into You. 

The book summarily reality-checked all delusions that someday a hoped for romantic situation would emerge from passive interest. His book targeted women, but the message was universal across gender.

The Odds On Dating

The Odds On Dating

You like someone, but they aren't into you. You aren't that into someone, but they are head-over-heels for you. You meet the perfect someone, but you're about to move across country in 3 weeks for a new job. You meet another person in the new city, but they just ended a relationship and aren't ready. They want a big family, but you don't want kids.

It's always something.