What Formula 409 Can Teach You Today About Love

What Formula 409 Can Teach You Today About Love

“Have enough courage to trust love one more time and always one more time.”
— Maya Angelou

So another relationship didn't work out. Another new date was wack. And another person who had so much potential turned out to be crazy. And not the good-, fun-, YOLO-type crazy. The "Yo, this fool is crazy!!" crazy. 

You get tired. You want to throw in the towel. You start to wonder if you'll ever. If you'll ever meet or love or be loved by someone special. 

I get it. I've moaned and groaned before about being tired, so you know I get it. But I think throwing in the towel--deciding to let go of your vision (Not "Let go and let God," but actually give up entirely)--is way too easy. Giving up on your vision takes no measure of heroics. It takes quitting; that's all. Granted, easy is exactly what you may be looking for. I can't say that I blame you. I mean, I'm not trying to be a hero either, but much will be required of the person to whom much is given. And right now, what's required of you is your acting on what you hope for. 

We can learn a lot about persistence from the story of Formula 409. 

Here's how they tell it...

"The Formula 409® name is actually a tribute to the tenacity of two young Detroit scientists hell-bent on formulating the greatest grease-cutting, dirt-destroying, bacteria cutting cleaner on the planet.

Thing is, creating the ultimate cleaner doesn’t just happen on the first try. And it didn’t happen on the 101st or the 301st either. It wasn’t until batch number 409 that they were finally satisfied. And so, the name stuck. Formula 409®. True story."

On one hand, you and I may be in the group of those whose love lives didn't take off on the first try. Side note: I'm happy for that. On the other hand, I'm not telling you that it's going to take 409 dates to meet the one. I'm telling you that it's going to take determination in spite of hurts or disappointments from the past.  

It's so tempting to check out, but quitting comes with its own kind of anguish because you know deep down you want it and you know it's kind of bullshit that you keep pretending like quitting is the answer and that your vision isn't a big deal anymore.

If you can't be courageous about how you pursue what you want, then be foolish instead. So long as you never give up on yourself. 

Keep going. Stop to recharge? Yes. But pick right back up and keep going. Keep going like Rudy wouldn't stop going hard at football practice. Keep going like J.K. Rowling who received rejection upon rejection letter for Harry Potter. Keep going like Tyler Perry kept writing plays--some that failed and some that succeeded. Keep going like the guys at Formula 409 who really wanted to cut grease.

The nature of dating is that it sometimes sucks. It's distressing when you want something to work and it doesn't. But do what Dr. Angelou advises: Have enough courage to trust love one more time...and always one more time.


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